The Value Of Giving Katharine Hepburn is said to have told this story about her childhood: “Once when I was a teenager, my father and I were standing in line to buy tickets for the circus. Finally, there was only one other family between us and the ticket counter. There were eight children, all probably under the age of 12. The way they were dressed, you could tell they didn’t have a lot of money, but their clothes were neat and clean.” When the family reached the front of the line, the ticket seller asked how many tickets they wanted. He proudly responded, “I’d like to buy eight children’s tickets and two adult tickets, so I can take my family to the circus.” The ticket lady stated the price. The man’s lip began to quiver. “How much did you say?” The ticket lady again stated the price. The man didn’t have enough money. How was he supposed to turn and tell his eight kids that he didn’t have enough money to take them to the circus? “Seeing what was going on,“ Hepburn continues, “my dad reached into his pocket, pulled out a $20 bill, and then dropped it on the ground. We were not wealthy in any sense of the word! My father bent down, picked up the $20 bill, tapped the man on the shoulder, and said, ‘Excuse me, sir, this fell out of your pocket.’” The man took Hepburn’s father’s hand in both of his, squeezed the $20 bill tightly, and with his lip quivering and a tear streaming down his cheek, he replied; “Thank you, thank you, sir. This really means a lot to me and my family.” “Although we didn’t get to see the circus that night,” Hepburn concludes, “we both felt a joy inside us that was far greater than seeing the circus could ever provide. That day I learnt the value of giving.” When Did We Start Doing That?! You cross your fingers for good luck or to excuse yourself from lying, but do you ever wonder how customs like that originated? The Cracked website explains the beginnings of everyday behavior we take for granted: • Painting your fingernails. Babylonian warriors in 3,200 B.C. would paint their nails before heading off to battle to signify their social class. • Giving the thumbs up. English archers in the Middle Ages would use the gesture, which was the correct brace height of a longbow, as a signal that they were ready to shoot. • Yawning. Covering your mouth while yawning developed from an ancient belief that evil spirits could enter your mouth during a yawn. • Blowing out candles. Making a wish while blowing out birthday candles derives from cultures which thought that smoke delivered prayers to the heavens. • High-fiving. The first recorded high- five occurred on October 2, 1977, when Glenn Burke of the LA Dodgers reached up to slap the hand of teammate Dusty Baker, who had just hit a home run, and Baker slapped his hand in return. • Crossing your fingers. Crossing fingers to catch good luck originated in ancient pagan cultures. The practice for lying came from early Christians who wanted to absolve themselves from lies they told their persecutors. One Form Of Exercise A man visited his doctor for a checkup. At the end of the exam, the doctor commented, “You certainly seem to get a lot of exercise.” “Oh, yeah,” the man said. “Just the other day I walked five miles in rugged terrain and climbed over rocks and trees. I waded along the edge of a lake, pushed through tall thistles, and even got sand in my clothes sliding down slopes.” The doctor was impressed. “You seem to be quite the avid outdoor enthusiast.” “Not really,” the man replied. “I’m just a lousy golfer.” SPEED BUMP Dave Coverly Give Yourself Permission To Succeed Many of us don’t succeed in our goals because we don’t allow ourselves to. You need to consciously give yourself permission to succeed. That way, you can overcome subconscious self-sabotage. Here’s how to open your life up to greater success: • Spend time with people who support you unconditionally. We often have a distorted view of ourselves and are blind to many of our assets. Being with people who believe in you helps give you a clearer view of your strengths and weaknesses. • Don’t cling to the past. Most of us have long-established patterns of behavior and thinking that have helped us in life—at one time. But people and circumstances change. Bringing an apple to the teacher may have worked in first grade, but your manager isn’t Mrs. Smith. Adapt your behavior and thought processes to the present situation. Otherwise, old habits may just impede your success. • Devote some time each day to nothing. Ironically, you can get in the way of your own success by being addicted to ceaseless activity. It’s important to give yourself space to do nothing without feeling guilty. This allows you to step back and assess where you’re heading and how you’re doing it.